At least one in four adults will experience mental ill health during their lifetime. Children don't escape unscathed either, with claims that at least three students in a typical classroom will have diagnosable mental health issues.
It’s a growing concern and, as many will discover, the waiting time to see either an NHS counsellor or a charity funded support worker can be several months away.
We all face changes as we move through life, coping with experiences like death of someone close, job losses, bullying, major illnesses, relationship breakdowns, even retirement. It can take up to two years to process and work through major changes like these, during which time it's not uncommon for people to develop anxieties or unhealthy coping mechanisms like drinking too much.
Even making positive changes can be daunting, like choosing a new career, or leaving home for the first time, or starting a family, or relocating to a new area.
Friends and family are good to talk to when you’re feeling a bit stuck but they’re not always the most unbiased listeners as sometimes their emotions are just as caught up as yours. That’s why it’s often easier, and arguably more beneficial, to speak to someone who's more impartial.
Why might you consider counselling
Counselling or psychotherapy are not designed to advise you what to do but to help you understand why you’re feeling or thinking in a particular way. A good counsellor will provide the time and space to enable you to make sense of your thoughts and emotions, and learn new ways of approaching and dealing with problems.
From the moment we’re born, we start learning, which helps shape our beliefs. Sometimes these beliefs are neither logical nor helpful to our long-term survival and can lead to quite destructive and repetitive patterns of behaviour like comfort eating, for example. Indeed, poor mental health can have a real detrimental effect on your physical health too.
If you're feeling low or can't think straight then this is where psychotherapy can help, with all kinds of issues. It may take some time to understand, for example, why you feel overwhelmed, unsettled or out of control, but I am an experienced and qualified counsellor who is led by you as to the pace at which you want to share information.
I offer counselling at both Towcester and in Delapre Park and provide a confidential space for you to talk about your concerns. Sometimes it may feel hard or painful to discuss difficult feelings but I am there to support you throughout your journey.
What can you expect during counselling?
For an informal chat about how counselling could help you, call me on 07927 340051
Change the way you react to things
The basic idea is that every outcome you experience in life, whether it is success or failure, wealth or poverty, health or illness, intimacy or estrangement, joy or frustration, is the result of how you have responded to an earlier event or events in your life. So if you don’t like the outcomes you’re getting you can either blame E for your lack of results (O), or change your R to the E until you get the O you want. Jack Canfield